There is a huge difference between giving your man oral sex and sucking his dick. oral sex is certainly a sensual and pleasurable experience for your man, while sucking his cock is a more intense, erotic, uninhibited animal act… and that’s what this guide is all about, showing you how to suck his cock with this wild, intense enthusiasm.
This page is chapter 5 of the oral sex guide and it will teach you everything you need to know about how to suck a cock in a way that will leave your man wondering if you were a porn star in a previous life.
If you prefer to learn some easier techniques for giving him oral sex, then I suggest you start with Chapter 1 which will give you an overview of how to give him a good blowjob, and then move on to Chapter 2 which will teach you how. start sucking cock properly. when you’re done, head over to chapter 3 to learn 55 cock sucking techniques that will blow him away, while chapter 4 continues the cock sucking tutorial with tips to finish him off.
Now let’s move on to this part of the cock sucking tutorial and learn how to suck cock in a way that will take your man’s breath away.
rule #1 – take the initiative
The first rule to sucking a cock like a porn star is to be able to take the initiative and start sucking it off without him asking you to. taking the lead works incredibly well for many reasons.
You know that feeling when your man just can’t keep his hands off you and just “has to have you”? it’s irresistibly attractive to be desired by someone who can’t control himself around you. he experiences those same feelings of being wanted when you take the initiative and start sucking him off when he doesn’t expect it. him so he uses this to your advantage.
Related: 9 ways to initiate sex
Another reason is due to the power and pleasure that many women feel when they give oral sex to their man. a recent study has shown that more than 30% of women enjoy the feeling of power that comes from sucking dick [1], and in another study, 28% of women reported that they consider the act of giving him oral sex her man is very pleasurable [2]. so if you already enjoy these sensations of power and pleasure from sucking his cock, this is another reason to take the initiative.
here are some examples of how you can take the initiative and start sucking your man’s cock:
bj surprise: Let’s say you’re both sitting at home watching TV. when she least expects it, snuggle up next to her and start massaging her crotch with your hand to make him hard, before pulling down her pants and giving her a blowjob.
head on the road: the next time he drives you home at night, do the same. she begins massaging his balls through his pants, before unzipping them and giving him some head. just make sure you’re not breaking any laws! this idea works just as well if you’re both sitting in the back of a friend’s car 😉
wood morning: Let’s say you wake up before your man on a lazy Sunday morning, why not wake him up with a surprise blowjob? discover more ways to have fun morning sex.
A little planning in advance goes a long way if you want to wake him up by sucking his cock. The most important thing is that you think about sleeping naked together (discover the benefits of sleeping naked), as this makes everything very easy. otherwise, you can wake him up while taking off his pajamas/briefs and “blow” the surprise.
Once you’ve removed his pants, you’ll need to very quietly lower yourself down to his groin. then it’s a simple case of putting it in your mouth and sucking on it like you normally would.
My only advice for sucking dick when giving your man a morning blowjob would be to go softer and slower than usual. this way, he should wake up more slowly… or you can even climax before he fully wakes up, making it a whole new experience for him.
note: my advice is to first talk to your man about a morning blowjob before trying it. otherwise, he may get an electric shock when you knock him down…which could cause injury…or worse, maybe he’s in that small minority of men who don’t want to experience it.
rule #2 – animal enthusiasm
The next technique for sucking his cock in a way that will blow his mind is to make sure you do it with a high level of animalistic and almost insatiable enthusiasm.
most guys see this (enthusiasm) as the most important cock sucking tip you can use in the bedroom [3].
One redditor even explains how he was told that the “main factor” contributing to the quality of his blowjobs is that he enjoys giving them [4]. other users commented that this enthusiasm is “at least 50% of what makes a good blowjob.”
I talk more about how enthusiasm is a vital component to giving a satisfying blowjob in Chapter 1 here, but to further explain how important it is, I want you to do something. imagine this scenario…
Your man hasn’t seen you for almost a whole week and you’re waiting at home for him to arrive. when he opens the door and rolls his eyes at you, he immediately runs forward and grabs you. As he hugs you, he leans in and gives you the most intense kiss you’ve ever received.
but he doesn’t stop there, he picks you up and takes you to the room, rips off your clothes and gets away with it. you don’t want him to stop for a second, and even if you tried to stop him, you probably couldn’t since he’s acting on every animal impulse in his body. there isn’t a single logical thought going through his head right now. It’s pure testosterone and lust running through her veins.
There’s something ridiculously hot and passionate about this…their unbridled enthusiasm. when you reverse the above situation and become the aggressor, the one who acts out of pure lust, and attack your man with animal enthusiasm while sucking his cock, you can make it an experience that surpasses anything he can imagine. Even if you’re not using any new techniques or positions in the bedroom…it can turn a boring sex life into a very busy one.
Keep in mind that if he’s not sure if he sucks dick well and is scared or constantly asking for feedback, you may not be as attractive to him. however, you can use dirty talk to gauge how much he likes what you’re doing, by talking about dirty talk…
rule #3 – talk dirty
Another way to make the experience feel magical for your man is to talk dirty to him while you suck his cock. while the guide to talking dirty goes into great detail teaching you exactly what to say and how to say it, here are some guidelines that work really well for talking dirty to your man while he’s sucking on…
Tell him what you’re going to do: Even before you meet your man, you can start building anticipation with him by getting his mind thinking about you and what you have planned for him. . if you talk to him on the phone, you can let him know that you have something planned for him later. but don’t let the cat out of the bag yet! try to be a little vague about what you’re planning so he’ll keep thinking about you and trying to figure out what you meant.
If you’re sending her a message (get other sexy text message ideas), try sending one of the following, “I’ve got a little surprise for you later!” or “I’ve had you on my lips all day, can’t wait to see you later!” or even “don’t make plans for later. I need to see you.”
tell him how turned on you are: this works fantastically well both before you meet him and when you’re together. again, you can call or message him… but in general, messaging is easier. try sending him one of the following messages, “ugh… I wish this day would end! I’m too horny to be in the office today” or “I’m sitting here at my desk, and all I can think about is wrapping my lips around your cock.”
Tell him how much you enjoy it: Now that you’ve used dirty talk to amp up the anticipation and make your man salivate and eager to feel your lips on him, it’s time to use dirty talk. talk to improve blowjob from him. the best way to do this is to tell him how much you are enjoying it and how much it turns you on to suck his cock. here are some examples:
“I love the feel of your cock in my mouth!” “I want to feel you explode and cum on my face.” “Just having your cock in my mouth makes me so wet!” “I want to feel you throb in my mouth when you come!” “I want to be on my knees every day for you.”
If you’re not sure if you can suck a cock well, the enthusiasm you show when talking dirty can take your blowjob from a good blowjob to a super hot one!
You can whisper these dirty phrases in your man’s ear before you harass him, or you can say them halfway through. You can learn more phrases and examples for talking dirty in chapter 2 and chapter 3 of the guide to talking dirty.
Talk dirty to see if he likes it: If you’ve read chapter 4 of the blowjob guide, then you’ve already covered “cock sucking 101” and you know how important communication is. is when you suck his penis. Some people avoid talking about sex because it can be difficult or uncomfortable.
dirty talk can make it easier to get feedback.
how?
all you have to do is simply ask her if she likes what you’re doing or if she wants more. you can even try two techniques and ask him to tell you which one he prefers. then use their answers to start sucking the good cock.
your head in his hands
A super powerful way to intensify this oral sex experience is to allow your man to take control and dictate things. You can do this by having your man hold his head while he keeps his arms at his sides or even tied behind his back. learn more kinky sex ideas here and some bdsm ideas here.
Now that your man is in control, he can dictate how fast you suck his cock and how deep you take it. All of this is perfect if you enjoy your man being in total control, but not so much fun if you have an overactive gag reflex…unless, of course, you like the idea of throwing up halfway through.
Some people call it skull fucking or face fucking when your man is in total control and can “mouth fuck” you, especially when he gets aggressive, but we see it more as a simple act of submission, of surrender. power to your man.
a redditor expands on this and says that he loves face fucking because “the feeling of your throat being completely filled with a hard cock and no gagging is absolutely amazing [5].”
If the thought of submitting to your man turns you on and you know he respects you enough not to go too fast or too deep, then putting your head in his hands and giving him control can be incredibly erotic, arousing and fun for you. you. both.
related: discover how to be more submissive with your man
However, you don’t want to go into this randomly. If you’re curious to try this on your man but nervous about having your hands tied behind your back and losing all control, then try it while holding a bell in your hand. this is instead of a safe word, which you won’t be able to use…because his penis will be in your mouth.
Whenever you feel uncomfortable or want your man to stop, you can ring the doorbell to let him know you need a break. Explaining all of this to your man ahead of time is vital.
Or you could just tie your hands together with a string, which you can easily break if you need to.
Even if you want to try this, it’s smart to be careful. let your man know if you like the idea but need to practice it in a few sessions. or maybe leave it for the end of the blowjob.
A reddit user warns that “you shouldn’t do this until you feel like you’ve started to master the basics of deep throating, because your muscles won’t have gotten used to the action and you’ll hurt your throat [6].”
turn the tables, take control & master it
of course the control can also work in the opposite direction 😉
It may seem like you have to be submissive when you suck a cock, but that’s not true! you can be the one to take control and dominate your man. This goes beyond taking the initiative that I talked about earlier in this chapter. and…
There are many ways to take control and dominate your man:
bondage: Just as your man can tie your hands behind your back, you can also restrain your man. there are several ways to do it, but my advice is to start with the least intense ways first and work your way up to the most intense bondage by sucking his cock. here are some ideas:
- have him sit on his hands while you suck him off.
- tie his wrists behind his back or even use handcuffs.
- Tie him by the wrists and ankles to the bed.
- tell him what you have planned for later in as much detail as possible, so he can start fantasizing about it. more tips on how to talk dirty.
- pick him up a bit when you go out together, to start turning him on.
- stop. That’s right, halfway through your blowjob, just stop and do something different (but still intimate) until he asks you to continue. An example of this would be going from sucking his cock to doing something less stimulating, like hugging him. all he can think about is you taking him in your mouth again.
- When he’s about to come, start arousing him by doing something like gently kissing his penis or balls instead of sucking on him. I talk more about the rim in chapter 4 on how to give him a blowjob and make him cum hard.
- ask him to say “please” if he wants a blowjob.
- next time you’re on your knees before you start sucking him off, ask him to beg you, to say, “please suck my dick.”
- While you’re sucking his cock, stop and tell him you’re not going to continue until he says “please don’t stop”. I beg you to continue.”
make sure if you are tying your wrists/ankles to the bed, you don’t use materials that restrict your blood flow.
Get more ideas on tying them up in our guide to light bondage.
Teasing: A fun and somewhat conventional way to dominate him while sucking his cock is to tease and tempt him before and during the act. I talk about this a bit in chapter 2 and more in the tease and denial guide.
here are some quick tips for sucking dick and teasing him before you start sucking his dick:
and here are some tips you can use during your blowjob to tease him:
Make Him Beg: Making your man beg can be either a lot of fun or… awkward. it all depends on what your preferences and those of your man are. so don’t feel like you should use this idea.
If you like exerting power over him and he enjoys it too, chances are you’ll have a lot of fun.
here are a bunch of different ways to make him beg you for a blowjob if you like this idea:
Of course, these are just examples. feel free to make him beg any way you want.
Make him promise: Making your man promise you something during a blowjob is a really fun way to feel the power you have over him. It’s also quite similar to making him beg you.
When you know he’s close to orgasm, slow down so he doesn’t cum, then make him promise you something like:
“I’m not going to let you cum until you promise to do it every night this week.” “If I let you cum on my face, you have to promise me that you’ll give me a 30-minute massage tomorrow night.” “Before I let you cum, I want you to promise me something: promise me that…”
one crucial thing to keep in mind when making your man promise you something when you fuck her is that…
the promise should be something small & fun.
If you try to manipulate him or make a big promise to him, things will start to get weird and it will kill the vibe you’re trying to create. therefore, keep promises small & fun.
You can learn more ways to dominate your man in the femdom ideas guide and this article on how to dominate your man in bed.
deep swallow
I’m not going to talk too much about deepthroating your man right now, since chapter 7 is dedicated to deepthroating.
All I’m going to say is that if you don’t have an overly sensitive gag reflex and you’re with a man you trust, then you should give it a try at least once. deep throating gives your man another set of sensations when sucking his cock that will help him see you as a sexual goddess.
get sloppy: When you get your man deep into your mouth and throat, you will naturally stimulate your gag reflex. this may cause him to gag, but it will also cause his mouth to produce a lot of saliva.
This excess saliva can make your blowjob feel pretty dirty as it comes out of your mouth, but…
Many guys find this mess/sloppiness super hot and arousing. Take it from a redditor who describes “dirty blowjobs are great […] ugh, my dick would almost explode from how hard it was during the session [7].”
The excess saliva also acts as a lubricant, making the sucking of your cock feel much more intense than usual. you can even take some of this saliva in your hands and use it to massage his balls or make touching his ass more pleasurable.
Some men like to gag: Many women are afraid to deepthroat their men because they don’t want to gag. they think it may be unattractive or unattractive to their man.
the funny thing is…
A lot of guys love to hear their partner throw up. she turns them on, not off.
so experiment and see if your guy likes hearing you puke (or just ask him).
Of course, if you don’t like nausea, feel free to ignore this idea.
If you’d like to learn more, check out the Deep Throat Guide (Chapter 7) for a step-by-step guide on how to do it in style.
prostate pleasure
I’ve already briefly covered stimulating your man’s prostate by sucking his cock in the blowjob techniques section, and cover it in detail in the guide to milking your man’s prostate, so I won’t repeat myself here. .
All I will say is that some men go crazy for prostate stimulation, and doing it while sucking his cock is something that sadly most men will never experience. if you can be the person who gives him this experience, it puts you in a very powerful position.
podcast: basis for sucking cock
In addition to reading the guide below, I hope you’ll listen to this podcast I recorded and it will teach you my top 11 tips for giving your man the perfect blowjob. I also cover the horrendous mistakes women make before they even start their blow job.
listen to more bad girl bible podcast episodes here.
human penis ring!
cock rings are a very popular sex toy among men and for good reason. One of the most enjoyable aspects of cock rings for your man is that they give him new sensations as he orgasms, helping to keep things fresh. I explain more in my penis ring guide.
what I want you to do is…
use your hand to make a “human” cock ring as he climaxes and let him experience these new sensations.
here’s how to do it:
When you know your man is about to come, wrap your thumb and forefinger around the base of his penis to form a “cock ring” and squeeze firmly as he begins to come. you don’t want to apply too little pressure when doing this, but you also want to make sure you don’t use too much pressure so that he stops ejaculating altogether.
Just to be clear, you will be tightening your “cock ring” around the base of his penis and not masturbating him. you should keep it in the same place.
Finding out how much pressure your man enjoys takes some practice, so be sure to talk to your man and get his input on your technique.
You can also experience how many fingers you wrap around his penis.
human ball stretcher
Just like making a cock ring by hand, you can also make a ring with your index finger and thumb on top of a man’s testicles when you suck his cock.
while cumming, you can slowly and gently pull his testicles down without squeezing them.
For some guys, this dramatically intensifies their orgasm.
others don’t enjoy it as much.
As always, be sure to talk to your man, get his feedback, and find out if he enjoys this technique or if you should focus on other cock sucking techniques in the future. you can always try these testicle massage techniques instead.
the end
If you’ve successfully used all of the cock sucking techniques in this guide, then you’re all set at this point. and if you finish him off perfectly, you can give him an orgasm so powerful he’ll give him amnesia [8] and he’ll brag that you can suck dick like a porn star.
While giving him a regular blowjob, you’ll probably just spit or swallow his cum or finish him off with a handjob as I explain in chapter 4, the chapter on how to finish off your man in style. but, when you’re sucking his dick, you’re acting for your boyfriend. You’re trying to be his own porn star!
psst, not sure whether to spit or swallow? discover the pros and cons of each. pay attention to your diet. if the taste of your semen changes with what you eat and drink, you may want to avoid swallowing the next day, even if you swallow normally [9].
With that in mind, here are some additional ideas you should try when your man climaxes so that sucking his cock becomes a work of art.
swallow with attitude: As I mentioned earlier, you can swallow your man’s load when he ejaculates. but to make it more intense for him, try to swallow him like you haven’t had a drop of water in days and are desperate to have his cum inside you. the moment he climaxes and explodes in your mouth, swallow him as you continue to suck for more. When your man sees how desperate you are for his cum, he can seriously intensify his orgasm.
show & swallow : Another powerful way to swallow your man’s load after he ends up in your mouth is to first open your mouth and show him his cum before swallowing.
licking your lips: An easier way to finish him off while making him incredibly hot is to make him cum in your open mouth. then, after swallowing his load, lick your lips and ask him, “when can i have some more?”
facial plus: Letting your husband cum on your face can be incredibly arousing for both of you. but you can make it more intense by making him cum on your face, then picking it up on your fingers and licking them clean.
direct the facial – when he is about to come, take his penis between your hands. take it out of your mouth and point it at your face to give yourself a facial.
Rub It: Another super erotic way to finish off your man when you suck his cock is to have him cum on your breasts or stomach and then start rubbing and massaging it around your breasts and stomach. , put on a show for her husband. you can even use it as a lubricant and start masturbating with it. Check out the masturbation guide on how to masturbate to amazing orgasms.
Snowballing: Snowballing can be the wildest, most intense experience of your man’s life, or he can throw up. To “snowball” your man, you must hold his load in your mouth after he cums. then, you kiss and kiss him, sharing his cum with him, sensually licking it and taking it into your mouth.
If you struggle with the taste of his semen, you may not want to swallow it. there’s a reddit post on blowjobs that advises making him ejaculate further into your mouth so you can swallow his cum right away and deal less with the taste [10].
Now that you know how to suck cock like a pro, you might be interested in learning some amazing oral sex positions from Chapter 6 that you can use to spice up a blowjob. You can also learn how you can finish off your man in style so that he gives you the most powerful orgasm you have ever experienced. Chapter 4 will show you how.
