What Being Spiritually Wise Means to Me – Cultivate

Hey Cultivate Sisters! I am so glad that you are with us on this journey of community cultivation this summer. Each week in June, we take time to study what our Cultivate Mission Statement is about and why it matters. God’s Word has much to say about being spiritually wise, relational, emotionally healthy, connected in community, and serving in a team. And several of our women pastors are excited to share some of their wisdom and experiences with you this month. So you will read from it and then go through the scriptures and discussion questions with your group!

This week we will delve deeper into the discovery of what it means to be spiritually wise and I want to share a little about that what that means for me personally. Many of you know my story – born into a pastor’s home, raised a pastor’s child, and then grew up to marry a pastor! Church life was my life for my ENTIRE life. So much of it was good – I learned and memorized many Bible verses, heard many great messages, attended exciting conferences, met some great heroes of the faith…experiences and lessons for which I am so grateful. But the dark side of being a “lifelong Christian” is what I call fake spirituality. This is something I have struggled with for many years. Fake spirituality is when things or people look spiritual, sound spiritual, and even “feel” spiritual, but are actually false or contradict God’s Word.

If you’ve spent time reading the Gospels in the New Testament (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John), you will see that Jesus was at odds with the religious leaders of his day—the Pharisees and Sadducees—for most of the time. These men were the ultimate Bible scholars. They knew ALL THINGS. They could quote Jewish law backwards and forwards. People worshiped them as holy and set apart for God. They were separated from “common people”. They were highly educated, intelligent, and reputed to be very, very…wise. And wisdom, as we know from the book of Proverbs, is something we should all grow into and strive to become:

… “Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who who gain understanding. .” (Proverbs 3:13)

Then why was Jesus always against them? Why did He even call them names? (Yes, Jesus did indeed…did not grant names that we would ordinarily say today, but I might throw out blows if you called me a “white tomb full of the bones of the dead” – Matthew 23:27)

I really think the worst thing he called her was hypocrites. Here is the definition of a hypocrite: A person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs that they actually do not have.

Damn it.

You want to know what the Pharisees despised most about Jesus? It wasn’t that He could perform miracles they couldn’t, or that people liked Him better, or that He sometimes embarrassed them in front of crowds when they tried to “trick” Him with their spiritual dilemmas. It was the fact that Jesus could see right past their sacred robes and eloquent prayers right into their hearts. He knew them…really knew them and they hated it. You were smart. But they definitely weren’t wise.

Here’s the problem: we confused what it means to be clever and what it means to be wise.

A wise man can remember a verse. A wise person lives it out.

A wise person can see their sin. A wise person confesses theirs.

A wise person can learn how to speak Christianese. A wise person chooses to live like Christ.

A wise person can say the right thing. A wise person does.

A wise person can look spiritual. A wise man it is indeed.

More words on wisdom from Proverbs:

“The awesome fear before the The Lord (i.e. worshiping Him and seeing Him as truly great) is the beginning and preeminent part of wisdom – its starting point and essence.” (Proverbs 9:10 AMP)

What I had to learn while struggling with fake spirituality throughout my teenage years was this:

Information about God is not the same as transformation through God.

Becoming spiritually wise has less to do with your outward appearance and more to do with your inner awareness. Become aware of his words, emotions, thoughts and actions and learn to align them with the heart of Jesus.

Would you like to know if you are becoming spiritually wise? Ask yourself these questions:

Am I kind?

Am I demanding?

Am I loving?

Am I balanced?

Am I quick to forgive?

Am I eager to gossip or to listen?

Am I seeking divine counsel?

Am I aware how people experience me?

Am I teachable?

Am I standing by God’s Word?

This list is not exhaustive, but it is a start. Here’s my challenge to you: Don’t answer these alone. Growing in wisdom means inviting someone into your life as a gentle diviner. So sit down with someone who loves you and encourages you as you grow in faith and answer them together. be humble. Be honest.

Becoming spiritually wise is a process and we all experience setbacks and resets. And that’s okay – there’s always grace for growth. And in the process you will learn so much about God’s heart for you and how He can use you as you are a wise daughter and help other women become the same.

Let’s continue to become spiritually wise together !

Lots of love,


Let’s dig deeper…

  1. Who is someone in your life that you would consider “spiritually wise”? How has their wisdom affected your life?
  2. Read Proverbs 9. Underline or circle each time the word “wisdom” occurs. What are some hallmarks of wisdom? What are some of the benefits?
  3. Struggling with fake spirituality? Why is it easy to be content with information rather than change?
  4. Read Proverbs 13:20. Becoming wise means investing in wise friendships and avoiding foolish ones. What friends in your life help you become a spiritually wise woman? Are their friendships that you may need to distance yourself from?
  5. After sharing some of your answers to the list of “Am I” questions above, spend some time praying for one another—that God You continue to grow in wisdom as you cultivate his word into your heart and life.

Melody is the cultivation leader at Sandals Church and leads there also worship. She is married to Adam, Sandals’ discipleship pastor. Together they have 3 children. Elijah is 13, Mehretab 11 and Addison 10. Melody enjoys spending time at the beach, a good massage and good food. After living her whole life on the East Coast and hating the winter, she made it her mission to be a California girl.


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